What is the Secret of Love?
Love: What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear that word? Anger? Romance? Enjoyment? Our emotions are automatically triggered, faulting our judgment at the very moment it crosses our mind.
Love can do many things for us. It can make us happy, make us feel wanted, and it can even make us feel important. However, it cannot solve depression or other problems with ourselves. The true secret to love is finding someone you want to be with and who wants to be with you. It's someone who you can spend time with without feeling like you want to be somewhere else.
So how did we get the point where love is something we must find a secret for?
In today's society of television and the Internet, life is exaggerated to its greatest extent. When you wake up in the morning and turn on the TV, what's on? Some soup opera about a steamy romance gone wrong. In the afternoon, we see talk shows about a woman who has cheated on her husband and doesn't know who her baby's father is. Then, in the evening we see either an out of shape husband with a super model wife who never get along or a nighttime drama about men and women having flings.
The answer is not simple. After years of watching television, movies, and reading books, we are tainted with false-truths which distort our thinking. Once we find someone, we never stop wondering whether this person is cheating or if they are real.
So how do we stop this from happening?
We don't! We let our lives be our lives and not let our minds get in the way. We try to realize that television is just television and the Internet is just the Internet. Just because Sally Jane's husband is cheating on her doesn't mean that your boyfriend is doing the same. Not all men are the same, no matter what your mother told you. And sorry guys, but not all women are the same either.
So where do I find love?
Love is everywhere! It's at the grocery store, at the gym, even at the gas station. There isn't a set time or place where love happens.
What if I meet one person, then a few months later fall for someone else?
Just because you believed you met the perfect person, then later find you don't match doesn't mean you are a bad person or that you should give up. In fact, check it off as a learning experience. The more bad relationships you have the more you grow as a person; you start to learn more about what your likes and dislikes and how to find out more.