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lostteen13
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| subject: 2 girls...1 choice |
posted: Oct 24, 06 9:38 am  |
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ok, well heres the story...i've been going out with a girl named Arianna for almost a year. Everything is fine for quite a while till' i meet this other girl Hannah...(my best friend of 13 years's COUSIN)she is really nice and does sum things that arianna doesnt...but i dontknow what to do...im in love with Arianna, but i crushed on Hannah...weird and ironic thing, both born on febuary 4...but in differant years lol...but anywayz...um i need help. i really dont know what to do. im soooo lost right now.  |
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Gary
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posted: Oct 25, 06 11:15 am |
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You aren't in love with someone if you have feelings for someone else the way you described. Also, you don't know what you want to do, which obviously means you have doubts about your feelings for Arianna.
If you don't at least break up with Arianna, you are just hurting yourself and her.
As well, breaking up with someone and then dating someone else the next day, or even week or month, is shameful and very immature. It just screams 'I don't know what I'm doing and I don't know what I want...' People who do this are setting themselves up for disappointment and heartbreak.
My advice for you, break up with Arianna. Even if you do have feelings for her, you shouldn't 'lie' to her about your feelings for someone else. Meaning, having feelings for someone else is lying to the both of you. Break up with her, then stay single for a while. Don't jump from relationship to relationship, that never works. Stay single, see the playing field, move slowly. Don't get caught up into one person just yet. Wait it out. If this person really is just a crush, you will get over her. If she isn't just a crush and her feelings are returned, then she will wait for you. No harm in waiting. |
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| subject: Re: 2 girls...1 choice |
posted: Dec 01, 06 11:32 am |
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[quote:4fc6f6566b="lostteen13"]ok, well heres the story...i've been going out with a girl named Arianna for almost a year. Everything is fine for quite a while till' i meet this other girl Hannah...(my best friend of 13 years's COUSIN)she is really nice and does sum things that arianna doesnt...but i dontknow what to do...im in love with Arianna, but i crushed on Hannah...weird and ironic thing, both born on febuary 4...but in differant years lol...but anywayz...um i need help. i really dont know what to do. im soooo lost right now. [/quote:4fc6f6566b]
okay so I TOTALLY know how you feel!!
it is hard..i know.
that happened to me..
i just thought long and hard about how i felt for both. and idk...
i just took a break from my boyfriend and told him i needed to think about how i felt for our relationship...
and he was understanding enough to understand..
so idk just try and think LONG AND HARD on what you feel for both of them...and who you could end up seeing with..
hope that helps
<3 Amy |
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Mizbee
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posted: Dec 26, 06 2:05 pm |
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[size=9:5ec7c3320a][color=blue:5ec7c3320a]You can always crush on someone. But you don't just come across love every day. You should stay with Arianna. Crushes fade. That's why they're called crushes. If you love Arianna, than you've already answered your own question. Stay with her.
-Brit[/color:5ec7c3320a][/size:5ec7c3320a] |
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sweetxdreamsXOXO
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| subject: thats a tough one |
posted: Mar 18, 07 6:57 am |
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| i have never been in this situation before. ok well don't tell anyone but i'm saying my name is ivy but my name is actually hanna.. freaky!! anyway well this situation is usually hard to handle but i think i can help. my advice would be to stick with what you have for now but if things dont work about between you and arianna then i would see if hannah is still available. if you love her then i would stick with the one you love, ok. my friend once said to me ;dont leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love' i wold follow that advice because if you left arianna for hannah, hannah might leave you for someone she loves. i woould stick with love instead of like. i hope this helps. -ivy |
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