How to Get Over a Break Up
Getting over a break up is a tough feat. However, billions of people have been through the exact same thing and lived through it, so it is possible.
Dealing with a break up.
Many people deal with break ups in a variety of ways. Some believe it's best to get right back on the saddle, while others disagree and wait a short (or long) period before getting back into the game.
The main considerations are your comfort level, how serious the relationship was and how bad was the break up. Of course, if you are reading this article you must be having a hard time and still hold a broken heart - no matter how serious the relationship was.
Just remember, you will survive.
Keeping your cool in time of crisis is 90% of the battle. If you can keep calm, everything will be OK - and if not, call a good friend and tell him or her all about it. They will understand. The more days that pass the easier it will get, so no crazy stuff, comprende?
Mending a broken heart.
After a week or so you may start to feel better about your previous break up. This does not mean you should jump into another relationship right away, especially a serious one. Take your time. You have all the time in the world to feel better, and just because you meet a nice guy/girl does not mean you should go ahead with it. Your emotions may still be unstable and the first person you meet may get undeserved love.
Coping with the first three days of a break up are the hardest of all. However, the road to recovery is short and beneficial to our being. Without a broken heart, we may never know what we really want or really need. Surviving is the key, but after the survival of this terrible ordeal we find peace and someone better.
The Five Stages of a Break Up
These same stages can be used to describe how we feel during a break up.
- Denial: We deny the break up is happening. They must be joking, right? This can't be happening to me!
- Anger: We turn to anger. How dare they break up with me! I should have broken up with him months ago!
- Bargaining: We try to bargain our way back into the relationship. If you take me back, I will do anything you want!
- Depression: We turn to sadness.
- Acceptance: We accept the relationship is over.
These steps occur on both sides of the break up. The breaking upper indeed realizes this first. Everyone will deny the relationship has turned for the worst and even though the anger caused may not show externally it is still created within the mind. The bargaining which occurs generally shows by the extension of the failed relationship. A relationship which is known to be over may continue for another day, another week, or even another month or year due to this phase.
Once the depression step has ended the relationship can finally end. However, the partners steps will just begin (if they too have not earlier realized the relationship has failed).