How to Write a Break up Letter
To begin with, break up letters should be reserved for middle schoolers and abusive relationships; otherwise you are asking for trouble. Break up letters are one of the easiest ways to handle a break up, but may also leave a huge mess behind. So if you want to stay friends, take the high road and tell them in person.
Otherwise, you can follow these rules in writing a break up letter.
- Keep the letter precise. Don't beat around the bush and tell them you love them or once did love them.
- Keep it short. No one wants to read more than what they have to when reading a letter like this, so keep it under a page.
- Make sure they understand that the relationship is over. If you leave any hint that it's not over, they will be back.
Follow these rules and you should be fine. Just remember that if you think there is a possibility of a future relationship, you might want to handle your break up a different way or simply just tell them (in person) that you want a break and explain why. Otherwise, make sure they understand that the relationship is over and you aren't coming back.
Just for insurance, if your relationship is too far out of hand and abusive, you may consider getting a restraining order or moving away/staying with family or friends for a while until your ex-partner relaxes. Break ups can cause bottled up emotions, specifically anger, to break out.